Are you dating to find your life partner?
Most people assume people date to find that special someone to share the rest of their life with. But that's not always the case.
There are four major reasons for dating. The first is for fun and friendship. Someone to hang out with and do activities with.
Another dating reason is for social connection. This gives singles a sense of community and a way to spend time with others who share common interests.
Another reason to date is for sex. If this appeals to you, be very clear to those you're dating about your purpose. Go out and have sex - safe sex. However, don't fool yourself into thinking your sex partner will turn into your life partner. It rarely happens.
On the other hand, if you're feeling drawn to have sex because you're "touch starved," get regular massages rather than jumping into bed with the first person who shows interest in you. Get a monthly massage at a minimum. A weekly massage is imperative if you haven't experienced healthy touch in a while.
And the fourth reason to date is to find a life partner.
If you're on your quest to find your life partner, you need to be truly single, ready and available.
That sounds like common sense, doesn't it? But it's not. Too many people are looking for a life partner long before they're ready.
If you're separated from your spouse, whether legally separated or not - you're still married! People who are separated need to be working on their marriage or their divorce, not dating. Dating is a distraction from the business at hand and only confuses the issues.
If you are dating to find your life partner, be sure to take the time to clarify your non-negotiable requirements for a long-term relationship.
Regardless of your reason for dating, just be sure of your intention and be clear and be able to communicate your desires to the people you date. Be up-front about your purpose and do not lead anyone into thinking you're looking for a life partner if you're not.
Happy dating!
